Q: I am in the process of separating from my spouse and mediation has been suggested as a way of resolving our differences. What is mediation and how can it help me?
A: When separating/divorcing, there are decisions to be made regarding division of money, assets and child related issues. Often, each party gets a lawyer and the two lawyers reach a settlement. Mediation is a process whereby one impartial mediator works with both parties together to voluntarily reach a mutually acceptable settlement. A qualified mediator will help both people equally and will ensure that both sides are heard. Mediation has many benefits:
1.It is less expensive—1 mediator is less costly than 2 lawyers and your lawyer can still approve the final settlement.
2.It is less adversarial—you work it out together.
3.There is a more positive outcome—everyone is happier because they have worked out the solution themselves.
4.It is more fair—everyone gets the necessary information and threats and coercion cannot apply.
5.There is a greater sense of personal empowerment– you have negotiated your own settlement rather than having lawyers or the court impose it on you and therefore, you are both more likely to follow through with it.
Through Elayne Tanner & Associates I have developed associations with professionals that I know to be highly qualified, skilled, and experienced in their specialized areas. I have done the screening and financial negotiations for you. If you would like to know more about mediation or wish to be referred to a mediator I have confidence in, please contact me and I would be happy to assist you.